While I was making breakfast this morning, I got to thinking about regrets I have had. This was quickly followed by wishing I had done things differently. The “if only” thoughts were racing through my mind.
For me, one of my biggest regrets is a decision I made when I was only 18 years old. I was coming home to celebrate Christmas. I had been away at college and was excited to see my family and friends. I had only 2 weeks at home. A friend from college invited me to her home far up north after Christmas and, sadly, I struggled with answering truthfully as I did not want to disappoint her and said “yes”. So, I spent only one week at home. I would see my dad only on Christmas day. I left for my friend’s a day or two after. I did not know that would be the last time I saw my father alive. He passed away when I was away at college a few months later. Regret and guilt over my decision plagued me for years.
There have been times in my life, I believed in the grace of our God as applied to everyone else, except myself. I was thinking this morning how deeply this attitude that I held onto for many years must have grieved God. As we read in Hebrews 4:15-16,
“For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who was tempted in every way that we are yet was without sin. 16Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need”
The arms of our Savior reach way back into our years lived and all the way to the present. We all have those sins of omission that gives birth to the regret and shame, which can haunt us. There are things in our lives which we may think are unforgiveable. As we struggle to accept the forgiveness of our Lord, we need to extend forgiveness to ourselves as well. Sometimes it is easier than others. When we hold onto unforgiveness towards ourselves or others, it is like choosing to haul around a heavy rock in our backpack or choosing to live life with a stone in our shoe.
God’s throne room is open to you and He is offering grace, mercy and forgiveness. As you receive it and allow it to sink in, forgive yourself if that is what is needed. Let yourself off the hook. There is nothing profitable in failing to do so. It is truly the “ultimate time waster”. Jesus died for all our sins.
Dear Father,
Thank You for the gift of mercy, grace and forgiveness which is offered to me today. I can’t change the past, but I can receive Your forgiveness and mercy as I confess my failing to You today. Thank You for Your love which is constant and Your mercy which has no time stamp. Thank You.
In Jesus Name,
Amen