Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others. It is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered; it keeps no record of wrong.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-5

Have you ever had one of those days where the Holy Spirit taps you on the shoulder and gently lets you know you blew it?

I was driving with my dog Penny just thinking about nothing in particular. I heard that still small voice who brought a recent conversation I’d had to mind. He said to me “Donna, you were boasting”. I wanted to argue my case as my boasting came from a story I like sharing, but God does not. So, I asked the Lord to forgive me.

I talked to Him about boasting and how easily I can slide into it without giving it any thought. I asked Him: “how can I know when I am being boastful?”. Here is the list He gave me. Perhaps there is more to add, but this is what came to mind:

1. When I tell a story and at the end of it, I am quietly hoping they will think I am wonderful.

2. It has the fragrance (or more accurately: smell) of pride.

3. There is a satisfaction that comes to my mind, like “ yeah, that is exactly what I said and I wish I could have said more!”

4. The motive in my heart has nothing to do with bringing any glory to God, only to myself.

5. While pride is present and I’m in boasting mode, I find that grace is in short supply.

6. Lastly, is an image that came to mind when I was thinking about boasting. The Lord simply said, “it is not a good look Donna. It is like wearing a striped shirt with shorts that are covered in squares. It’s hard to look at.”

How about you? What would you add to the list? Boasting is not what love lived out looks like. Boasting is self-seeking, and proud all at the same time. I am not talking about when we tell each other about our kids or grandkids, I am talking about the stories that quietly puff ourselves up. Trust me, I love to tell a good story, but I need to do so with 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 in mind.

Dear Father,

I wish I could get things right. I thank You for forgiveness. Please tap me on the shoulder again if You hear me being boastful? I know it is not good, nor pleasant to listen to. Forgive me God.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen