The "Iron" Friends

Proverbs 27:17 “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” 

If you go to Black Creek Pioneer Village in Toronto, and watch the black smith demonstrating his craft, it is always iron with iron, not wood or any other kind of material. It is only effective as he strikes the iron with an iron instrument in hand, they can not merely rest idly near each other. 

In life, it is the friends we have who have spoken up and told us the truth we needed to hear that enriches our lives. It is not the friend that is too afraid to speak up. We become better people when we speak up and, in love, say what would be truly helpful to hear. 

In this time of history, it seems much more popular to choose silence rather than speak up. The fear to offend has gripped many and leaves us to choose silence. This does not help us.

It is true that not all truth needs to be spoken as it is not always helpful. There is wisdom that must be applied. There is also a timing to consider. A hard word can be better accepted and heard if it’s shared in a timely manner, where things are perhaps less chaotic or stressful.

 In my experience, when there has been truth that must be spoken, I do pray about it. Sometimes that truth is not supposed to come from me (especially if it has to do with one of my adult children). Sometimes the Lord has asked me to instead leave it with Him, which if I am being honest, is not the answer I was looking for. 

If I know that there is something that I do need to say, I will ask God to show me when is the best time to speak it. I ask Him for an opportunity and then take it becomes available. 

As I look back at conversations over the years, the friends that have inspired me are those who have been willing to take the risk to speak up and ask the questions like: “have you ever considered...?” or “ as I have been listening, can I tell you honestly what I observe?” It is friends who have spoken up in my life that have pushed me forward. They are that iron in my life. 

Who are your “iron friends"? I hope that we can be that person to someone in our life. May God use us to enrich those who are nearest to us. 

Dear Father, 

Thank you for the friends You have used in my life that are like iron to me. I am better today because of them, and I am grateful. I ask that You give me wisdom and courage to be that kind of friend back. Fill me with the sensitivity that comes from You Holy Spirit. 

In Jesus Name,

Amen

The Unmistakable Power of a Life Lived Well

“But someone will say, ‘you have faith; I have deeds.’ Show me your faith without deeds and I will show you my faith by my deeds.” James 2:18

There is a divine balancing act going on in this verse. One is proclamation alone and the other is proclamation (faith) demonstrated by actions. I think it is often easier to talk more than to act on our words. 

I have a very clear memory from high school when I was volunteering at my mom’s center with psychiatric patients. There was a sweet little woman whose name was Florence. She decided I was her best friend and wanted a quick hug when I came to visit. My 14-year-old self was not very keen on that. I was willing to sit beside her, but I had my limits. 

It all sounds innocent enough except from my mom’s point of view. I had started to go to church at that time and had told my mom I was a Christian. That did not impress her at all. I would try to tell her about Jesus, but she would shut down the conversation saying, “Until I can see you love and accept Florence the way Jesus would, don’t talk to me about your faith. I do not believe you.”

My mom’s favorite poem is called: 

Sermons We See by Edgar Guest
I 'd rather see a sermon than hear one any day; 
I'd rather one should walk with me than merely tell the way. 
The eye's a better pupil and more willing than the ear, 
Fine counsel is confusing, but example's always clear; 
And the best of all the preachers are the men who live their creeds, 
For to see good put in action is what everybody needs.

I soon can learn to do it if you'll let me see it done; 
I can watch your hands in action, but your tongue too fast may run. 
And the lecture you deliver may be very wise and true, 
But I'd rather get my lessons by observing what you do; 
For I might misunderstand you and the high advice you give, 
But there's no misunderstanding how you act and how you live.

When I see a deed of kindness, I am eager to be kind. 
When a weaker brother stumbles and a strong man stays behind 
Just to see if he can help him, then the wish grows strong in me 
To become as big and thoughtful as I know that friend to be. 
And all travelers can witness that the best of guides today 
Is not the one who tells them, but the one who shows the way.

One good man teaches many, men believe what they behold; 
One deed of kindness noticed is worth forty that are told. 
Who stands with men of honor learns to hold his honor dear, 
For right living speaks a language which to everyone is clear. 
Though an able speaker charms me with his eloquence, I say, 
I'd rather see a sermon than to hear one, any day.

To be eloquent and able to defend our faith is a great thing, but it is worth little if our lives don’t reflect the message we are trying to share. 

May God give us wisdom and a heart full of His love to care and listen to those He sends us along the way. 

Dear Father,

Fill me today with Your love and tenderness Father. Give me Your eyes to see as You see and ears to hear as You hear. I pray that today, my life would reflect Your love. 

In Jesus Name,

Amen

3 Great News Stories!

“Light in the messenger’s eyes brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones.”

Proverbs 15: 30

I love encouraging stories. 

Story # 1.  This summer, I met a little girl who is about 7 years old. She was riding her bike. She stopped to introduce herself to me. She told me, “My mom was told she would never have children, but here I am - I am a miracle”. I could not help but smile. This little girl is a Christ follower and the light of Christ shines through this dear one every day.

Story # 2.  On Sunday we had a new lady at church. My husband, Bill, told me that God healed this woman. She was at the front door of our church receiving a lunch along with many others. She shared that her foot was not well and deeply painful; this had been the case for quite a while now. Someone offered to pray for her and God healed her.

On Sunday the woman came to church and told Bill this story. She was so excited.  She said, “I’d like to come to your church now, if I may. I’m so thankful for what has happened to me.”

If there is one thing, I can tell you about the dear people we minister to on the streets, they are not people with many resources or solutions to what ails them. When we pray for them, we often see eyes shut tight and earnestly calling out to God.

Story # 3.  Last Saturday there was another street involved woman who came up to our church to worship. She has been deteriorating for some time. She struggles with mental illness and hears voices, until she comes into our Saturday night worship service. It reminds me of my brother who would also hear voices. As I prayed over him quietly, he asked me what I am I doing? I told him, I am praying for you. He said, “when you do that, all the voices stop.” When Bill was praying for this woman on Saturday night, peace filled her heart. She described the quiet that comes to her in our place.

We may not have a fancy sanctuary, but God is there, and He meets people where they are. I praise God for all the lives He has touched and brought hope to over so many years.

We are not without hope! God loves us and sees us. He knows our suffering and what is discouraging us today.  I pray that He will meet your needs and calm your fears. You are not alone.

Maybe you have an encouraging story that you can share with someone you know today. It brings health to our bones according to this Proverb!

Dear Father,

Thank You for the great things You are always doing. Thank You for who You are. Restore hope and peace to my heart.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

Confession is Still Good for the Soul!

On Sunday I was teaching Sunday school to a bunch of teenagers. The topic was: the tongue, and the trouble it can get us into. We read and discussed a bunch of passages that would give us a window of understanding from God’s Word. 

I asked them “what do you do when you say something you should not have? You head home, and the conversation is eating away at you?” Their answers surprised me. “I get myself super busy, so I don’t have to think about it”.  Another said: “I binge watch a show I don’t like so it really takes my mind off of it”. Some of them shared how they “replay the conversation and rehearse what they should have said.” I asked them if they would go to their friends and apologize? They looked horrified when I asked that! Only one said they went back to their friends and confessed that they should not have said what they did and apologized. She said her friends just look at her like she lost her mind. I asked her: “how did you feel though?” She said it did not matter how her friends responded, she felt better. 

For myself, I experience such a weight in my soul when I know I have said more than I should have or spoke unkindly, I can easily lose sleep over it. I have learned to just make things right. 

In light of this conversation, these scriptures lay things out very clearly: 

“Therefore, confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful.” James 5:16

“Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.” Proverbs 28:13

One of the commentaries I read regarding Proverbs 28:13 said this about confession- “Confession is the soul’s vomit, and those who use it, shall have ease of conscience, but God best comforts and cordials to restore them again.” (Trapp) While a very graphic description, I see the truth in it. Even if confession is not very popular in our culture today, it remains helpful and restorative for our souls. We don’t have to go into the gross details. We need to say enough to be understood and leave it. Peace arrives and God will comfort us. 

Dear Father,

Thank you for the practice of confession before You and others when that is what is needed. Give me courage to be honest to confess what I ought and wisdom to carry it through. Thank You.

In Jesus Name,

Amen. 

God's Ear that Bends to Hear Us!

'"Listen to my words, Lord, consider my lament.  Hear my cry for help, my King and my God , for to you I pray. In the morning, Lord, you hear my voice.  In the morning, I lay my requests before you and wait expectantly. Psalm 5:1-3

 I was reading Psalm 5 a few weeks ago and the truth and encouragement I find in it, has not left me.

 Most of my life, I have been told I have small ears. I hear well enough but not like I used to if I am being honest. I do have to guess sometimes what people are saying. There are times, after listening to a long explanation, I struggle really knowing what was said and am hesitant to ask as them to repeat, because it does not always help. It leaves me guessing in part. I will have to get my ears checked out!

 Thankfully, God is not like that. His hearing does not deteriorate like peoples does. One commentary quoted R.A. Torrey from his book, How to Pray. “In order that a prayer should be really unto God, there must be a definite and conscious approach to God when we pray; we must have a definite and vivid realization that God is bending over us and listening as we pray.”

 All week, as I have been asked or burdened to pray for someone or a situation, I have this image in my mind, of the God who hears perfectly, bending His massive ear, to hear my prayer. That simple image has helped me find rest after I have prayed. I know He has heard me, and I can now leave this burden, or this loved one, at His feet. It definitely, helps me wait with expectation.

 Going to God Almighty with our requests reminded me of something we do routinely. If we have a friend with a hard plumbing question, we ask our plumber friend what he thinks. We go to someone who knows.

 We go to the God who hears and bends His ear to hear our prayer, whether it be loud or whispered. You matter to Him. He loves you and all these things that are bothering you. He knows how to direct you or your loved one. He is the God who intervenes. As we pray, we wait with confidence. He has heard us. We do need to be sure to confess our sins first though! This should be our practice as we enter the throne room of our Holy God.

 Dear Father,

 Thank you for hearing me as I pray. Thank You for bending your ear toward me. Thank You that nothing is too hard for You. Remind me daily, of that massive ear of Yours, bending to hear me as I pray.

 In Jesus Name,

 Amen

Strikes and bad News – what can I do?

The news can be hard to read. I admit, there are times it can make me anxious and even angry. It is easy to read stories and be left feeling a bit hopeless. The stories of wars or new tariffs that our country is dealing with, they can all add up. I know several people who have stopped reading the news and I understand why.

Most recently, in Canada, we have had to deal with a huge strike by a major airline. This strike affected my own family deeply. I know there are countless stories across the country of families who put there trust in this airline, booking tickets and making plans in good faith. All ending up in cancelled flights and deep disappointments and difficult predicaments.

As I was reading or listening to the news the thought came to me simply as to receive whatever I heard or read as a guide in how I ought to pray.

So, that is exactly what I have made my practice. If there is an important meeting about the ending of a war, I pray. If there is a flood or forest fire, I pray for those involved. Whatever is going on, if I read it and it grabs my heart I pray.

We are instructed to “Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful”. Colossians 4:2

I would like to take this moment to encourage you to join me in praying about these hard things that are happening in the world. We know that nothing is too hard for God.  This world is in desperate need of God’s wisdom and His intervention. Let’s pray for that. God is able. He invites us to pray, and prayer is a powerful thing! Leave all these huge things at the feet of God who is God Almighty. Then my friend, rest in Him and give thanks. Remember, our great Shepherd who is always near to us, also says multiple times in His word. “Do not be afraid”. May He calm our fears and give us the faith we need to trust Him even as we lay all these many problems at His feet.

Dear Father,

Thank You for being a God who is all Powerful and more than able. Thank You that I can leave all that is going in not only in my life at your feet, but also all that is going on in the world. I do pray that You Father, would intervene. Bring Your wisdom to our leaders and peace in these war-torn lands. Father, calm my fears. Minister to those who weep. Father, you see this whole world in a glance. I leave all the news of today with You.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

Simple and Encouraging at the Same Time!

“He touched her hand and the fever left her, and she got up and began to serve them.”  Matt. 8:15

Many people would breeze right by this passage.  As a mother of 4 and a mother-in-law almost 4 times over, I find this story important. Next week is the wedding of my 3rd born and the last of my children to become married.

As a mom and a mother-in-law, there is no shortage of jokes. Some of them are even funny.

When Jesus discovers that Peter’s mother-in-law is sick, He does not say, “Sorry to hear that.” and then carries on with the purpose of his visit to that home.  Jesus touches the woman, healing her completely from that terrible fever! The transformation is so significant that she gets up immediately and begins serving them.

I have to wonder about this woman, frankly.   When I have been sick like this, I do not generally think of serving a crowd of people right away. This lady does. I think that is impressive.  She must love to serve.  She did not sit down so she could get back to her knitting or nurse a nice hot cup of tea - she chose to serve.

This passage encourages me, that while there are times that I may feel unseen as mother or mom in law (maybe true, maybe not..) Jesus sees me, and He sees you if you find yourself a mom like me.

I can learn from this woman also. Serving is important. For me, I can always grow in this.

I am thankful for this simple passage and the reminder that I am seen by Jesus, and you are too!

Dear Jesus,

Thank you for this simple story and the beautiful truth it represents. Thank you that it mattered enough to make it into Your word. Thank You for mothers in law and moms. I had a wonderful one; I learned much from her example. She certainly taught me what it meant to serve humbly. Help us to be found serving You and others faithfully.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

Waiting Patiently... Not my Top Virtue

Patience is a virtue that is difficult when we are feeling anxious and are accustomed to everything being instant.

Psalm 40:1 says, “I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry.”

In my experience, God is not always fast at responding to my prayers. Sometimes He is, but not always. I think we all have our timelines laid out for God to respond to. Yet, our Father in Heaven whom we cry out to also said,

 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, “declares the Lord. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” Isa. 55:8-9.

 God does not think like we do nor are His ways our ways. There is much faith involved in waiting. Think of the confusion and harm that can come because we fail to wait on God for His timing and direction. In Gen 15:4 God says this to Abraham;

“This man will not be your heir, but a son who is your own flesh and blood will be your heir.” 5He took him outside and said, “Look up at the sky and count the stars—if indeed you can count them.” Then he said to him, “So shall your offspring be.”

Sarah would not wait for God to fulfill His promise; she thought she would help God out by giving her servant Hagar to Abraham to bear this promised child. That was a terrible idea. Unfortunately, Abraham gave in to Sarah’s scheme and soon we meet Hagar’s son Ishmael. If you read the following chapters you will see the problems and grief that was caused by the impatience of Sarah and the foolish giving in of Abraham.

We find ourselves often waiting on God for something or someone. The challenge is to not allow our lack of faith, anxiety, or patience to prompt us to move ahead of God. We have all seen God care for us in days gone by. He is faithful and will do whatever is in His heart to do.

I did ask God today “what about when we are waiting on someone we love who keeps doing something that is foolish or harmful, and they keep doing it?”

He simply reminded me to put my trust in Him and not in our loved one. He also reminded me to give thanks, as nothing is impossible for Him.

Perhaps that is not the answer we are wishing for, but it is the heart of our Father. Trust, give thanks and wait.

Dear Father,

You know everything I am waiting on today. I put my trust in You and ask for Your mercy. Thank You for hearing me when I call out to you. Thank You for being all wise. Your ways and Your thoughts are far beyond my own. I choose to wait and trust You. Thank You for what You are doing, even in this moment. I trust you.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

Don't Lose Your Voice!

“And now you be silent and not able to speak until the day this happens, because you did not believe my words which will come true at the appointed time.” Luke 1:20

I will never forget the summer I lost my voice. We had just moved to Toronto to begin our ministry there. Our kids were all young. Having no voice was very challenging.

I was thinking about when this happened to Zachariah in Luke 1. We read that he also lost his voice, but his story was quite different.  Zachariah had met the angel Gabriel and was told that his wife would have a baby in her old age. He found this hard to believe. To demonstrate the truth of his words, the angel took away Zachariah’s voice. He would only have it back when the fulfillment of what was promised had come to pass.

The root of Zachariah’s silence was unbelief. When we fail to believe God for what He is doing, we also find ourselves silent. That silence cannot declare the incredible thing God is doing and bring glory to God because of our unbelief.

When Zachariah expressed his unbelief regarding his wife bearing a child in her old age, it was not only he that lost, but everyone else also. They knew something had happened but were deprived of the blessing and the incredible faith building story because of Zachariah’s silence.

Recently my husband prayed for God to heal someone in hospital. The situation looked very bad. He prayed for healing. The next morning, this individual was released from hospital. I was surprised that they failed to see any connection between my husband’s prayer and their healing. We gave thanks to God for what He did. These people did not see it like that at all.

When we fail to believe, it is like losing your voice to share of the great things that God has done and will do. May we each have that beautiful faith to believe so we can tell others of the mountains that have moved and lives that are changed.

Dear Father,

Thank you for your Word today. Forgive me for my unbelief.  You are the God of the impossible. I choose to trust You so that I might be able to declare Your praise to those around me.  You alone do great things.  I delight to speak of them.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

6 Clues that you may be boasting!

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others. It is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered; it keeps no record of wrong.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-5

Have you ever had one of those days where the Holy Spirit taps you on the shoulder and gently lets you know you blew it? 

I was driving with my dog Penny just thinking about nothing in particular. I heard that still small voice who brought a recent conversation I’d had to mind. He said to me “Donna, you were boasting”. I wanted to argue my case as my boasting came from a story I like sharing, but God does not. So, I asked the Lord to forgive me. 

I talked to Him about boasting and how easily I can slide into it without giving it any thought. I asked Him: “how can I know when I am being boastful?”. Here is the list He gave me. Perhaps there is more to add, but this is what came to mind: 

1. When I tell a story and at the end of it, I am quietly hoping they will think I am wonderful. 

2. It has the fragrance (or more accurately: smell) of pride. 

3. There is a satisfaction that comes to my mind, like “ yeah, that is exactly what I said and I wish I could have said more!” 

4. The motive in my heart has nothing to do with bringing any glory to God, only to myself. 

5. While pride is present and I’m in boasting mode, I find that grace is in short supply. 

6. Lastly, is an image that came to mind when I was thinking about boasting. The Lord simply said, “it is not a good look Donna. It is like wearing a striped shirt with shorts that are covered in squares. It’s hard to look at.”

How about you? What would you add to the list? Boasting is not what love lived out looks like. Boasting is self-seeking, and proud all at the same time. I am not talking about when we tell each other about our kids or grandkids, I am talking about the stories that quietly puff ourselves up. Trust me, I love to tell a good story, but I need to do so with 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 in mind. 

Dear Father, 

I wish I could get things right. I thank You for forgiveness. Please tap me on the shoulder again if You hear me being boastful? I know it is not good, nor pleasant to listen to. Forgive me God.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen

Call Me!!

Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know. Jer.33:3

This verse came racing to my mind yesterday as I listened to a young boy call to his mom. “MOM!” It was a focused confident call.  He was absolutely convinced that she would hear him and answer. He had NO thoughts like “I wonder if she will hear me or I wonder if this is a good time”.  It did not matter.   He had a question, and it needed answering - now.

I wondered what my prayers sound like when I approach my Father who I know loves me. Am I so confident He will answer me? Will He hear my urgent call?

This invitation to call to God in Jeremiah 33:3 is given as the Babylonians are attacking the city and the people of God were facing capture and who knows what. Fear was rife in the people of God that day. It is in this context this invitation is given to God’s people.

When we are gripped by fear because of situations we cannot control and an uncertain future, God says to us, “Call to me” and the promise is that He will answer. Even as God’s people were led into 70 years of captivity - that promise stood firm. The promise is particularly attractive because, in their case, nobody would believe that there are great and unsearchable things ahead for them – all they see is war and certain captivity.  In such cases, we have nowhere else to go but to call out to God because everything that is on the horizon looks so bleak.  Only He can see past the dismal present into a desirable future.  We’re not given that ability – but He will share it with us if we call to Him.

The way may seem long and hard.  We desperately need His perspective or we wither under the weight of the trial.  I have seen how He has shown me things in dark places that I could not know otherwise, but have greatly strengthened my faith and filled me with hope, though the situation I sat in remained unchanged for a long time.  This is one way that God strengthens our faith. When we call to Him He will show us great and unsearchable things that we definitely do not know.  We then live out of those promises and pictures He shows us.  We know that God is cognizant of our situation.  What is not so certain is whether we will actually call out to Him in our situation.

This young boy could call confidently to his mom and know that she would answer him.  She always does, even if the answer is different from what he is expecting.  He does not have the expectation that her answer is predictable.  He does know though she will answer him because she loves him.   

God hears you friend as you call to Him. He promises He will answer. Don’t give up.

Dear Father,

Thank You for hearing me when I call and for the promise that You will answer me. Father, I am in need of some answers today. Show me what I cannot see, that I might be full of hope. Speak to me Father, I need to hear from You.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

A Beautiful Reminder for a Starry Night

When the kids were young, Bill and I used to take them camping in the back country of Algonquin Park. It is one of Ontario’s largest provincial parks with all kinds of beautiful lakes. We would rent 3 canoes. Our dog insisted in travelling in Bill’s canoe - at the very front. I always thought that was funny. We have many precious memories from those holidays.

One thing we will never forget was sitting up at night and looking at the stars. Our whole family would sit by the lake and watch intently for the first falling star. We live in Toronto with so many bright lights, we don’t get to see the stars so clearly.

I was thinking about those starry skies when I came across this beautiful verse from Isaiah 40:26

Lift up your eyes and look to the heavens: Who created all these? He who brings out the starry host one by one and calls forth each of them by name. Because of his great power and mighty strength, not one of them is missing.”

 This passage is written to a remnant of God’s people as they were finally released from a long captivity in Babylon. They were tired and discouraged. Hope was in short supply.

 As they journeyed along, there were no city lights that would dim the skies. The stars, shown in all their brilliance, would light the road before them. If they would look up, past the circumstances and the memories that they were leaving behind, their perspective could change.

 They would have been reminded of these beautiful words spoken by the prophet Isaiah.  The truth that God who is all powerful, and hung each star, knows their names.  He sees them. He saw their suffering and was well aware of their weariness.  He was able to do all of this because He is great power and might.

 It is a powerful experience to choose to look up at the stars and be reminded that this same truth has not changed. God invites us, to look to Him who is our help. (Psalm 121)

 Perhaps the next starry night, you will remember this truth. He sees you. He sees where you have come from and where you are right at this moment. He knows the struggles. He loves you just as He loved that weary remnant that journeyed back to Jerusalem all those years ago.

 Dear Father,

 Thank You for the starry nights and this beautiful truth. You see what I am going through right now. Give me wisdom and strength for whatever is ahead. I praise You for being God Almighty. I need a powerful God who loves me right now.

 In Jesus Name,

 Amen

Mind Boggling Behavior of People

Who has not had a troubled moment while looking at the behaviour of people, strangers or those we know. I was thinking about that this morning at 4:00am. These thoughts kept rolling over in my mind. I was making up all kinds of conversations to get to the bottom of things. Let me just tell you, it was doing nothing to help me sleep! Everything is worse at night if you are one of those sleep challenged people, you might understand. We are not at our most rational.

I was praying this morning about this mind-boggling situation and that well known verse came wandering into my mind. “ Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean NOT on your own understanding.” Proverbs 3:5

I felt like God was reminding me I do not know the whole story, nor do I know what people are truly thinking. Only God knows that. His request of me this morning is that I would trust Him in the middle of this. Maybe one day, I will have a conversation and bring some understanding, but not before I trust Him.

It is curious that God’s request is for my whole heart to trust Him, not just a corner of it. We know that He will work it out somehow. He will change them or maybe God will change me ; perhaps both!

I am reminded that while people are hard to understand, I know that there are times when I am also a bit of a mystery. My husband will certainly not argue that point!

God asks us today to trust Him with our whole heart and not put too much weight on our own understanding as it is very limited. We don’t know the whole story, but God does.

While we are busy working on trusting Him, if you are feeling hurt in all of this because of this mind-bending behavior. Bring that pain and disappointment to God. He is not going to say, “ you shouldn’t feel that way”. I do not like when people say that! When I feel hurt, that is not going to change a thing let me tell you!  I can take my pile of hurt feelings to God and then work through forgiving people who have hurt me and let me down.

I love thinking that in the middle of this, we have a Heavenly Father who loves us perfectly and every moment of each day, no matter what is going on!

Leave the confusing people to God dear friend and anything that goes with it. He is trustworthy!

Dear Father,

Thank You for being trustworthy. I entrust the people in my life to You. I lean on You today rather than my own understanding and assumptions. I confess, I do not know everything going on in them. Thank You for Your constant love for me.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

The Power of God in the Middle of Brokenness

I have begun something new the last few months: Every Wednesday I go to a prayer room, and I pray. At the church there is a cool Labyrinth created to assist you as you pray, so you walk through it while you pray. I really enjoy this as I am not a very good sitter when it comes to prayer, I prefer to move. 

Last week, I was heavy hearted as I was interceding for several impossibly difficult situations. To be honest, it felt overwhelming. As I walked that Labyrinth and prayed, something very odd happened. I heard an old nursery rhyme:

“Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall, Humpty Dumpty had a great fall. All the King’s horses and all the King’s men couldn’t put Humpty together again”. Then the Lord spoke again and said, “ But I can”. 

As I prayed about each impossible situation of individuals whose lives were devastated by consequences of bad decisions, this nursery rhyme kept coming to me and the Lord’s words repeated “ but I can”. It brought me peace and relief. Every situation I brought to the Lord in prayer was about people whose lives were in pieces. Far too difficult for me or anyone to put together again. God’s intervention is needed. 

Psalm 34: 17-18 says: “The righteous cry out and the Lord hears them, he delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the broken hearted and saves those who are crushed in Spirit.”

As we call out to God, we can be assured that He does hear us and that He will deliver us from our troubles. It may not always look as we imagine, but the promise that he is near to us is sure, especially to those who are crushed in spirit. 

For parents or grandparents who are reading this today and are heavy hearted over a loved one, God sees and knows. He is very nearby. The Lord who loves you, does not shrink back because your heart is broken over the choices of those who are so very dear to you. 

In our own family, we have faced heartbreak over the years but God has been faithful. I would not say He was as fast as we would have liked, but always faithful. He gave us what we needed each day, courage, strength and comfort in our overwhelming sadness. 

My prayer for you is this:

Dear Father,

I pray for Your peace to fill the hearts of Your loved one reading this right now. Thank You that brokenness does not cause You to worry or stress. Thank You that You are able to restore every life as we lay them before You today. Make Your nearness clear to each one. 

In Jesus Name,

Amen

The Beauty of Slowing Down and Sitting with God

There is someone in my life (not my husband thankfully!) who is often in a rush.  Many times, I store up a few things that are on my mind to tell them and just as I am 4 words in, this loved one needs to rush off. Rarely is there time to tell them what was on my heart. I am left feeling hurt and it makes me just not want to bother. 

This thought flashed through my mind today as I was reading Psalm 27:4, which says: “One thing I ask from the Lord, this only do I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to gaze on the beauty of the Lord and to seek him in his temple.”

Everything about this verse talks about not rushing. Too often I am in a rush when it comes time to sit with the Lord. David (the author) talks about how he longs to dwell (not just pop in) with God. Reading even further, he mentions the idea that while he is there, he would like to gaze at the beauty of the Lord – not glance, gaze! 

I have discovered that if I am able to slow myself down and really be present as I sit in the presence of the Father, I am able to see Him more clearly, hear what He is saying, and receive His peace. None of this seems to happen when I rush in and rush out. I wondered this morning as I read this verse, how often do I complain that I am not hearing from God when perhaps, like my experience I describe in the first paragraph, God begins to speak but honestly, my mind is already on my next task. 

I remember the challenge of being a young mom and trying to find the headspace to read and truly hear from God – it was challenging. I remember thinking that once the kids got older it would get easier. Well, the kids are older and it is NOT easier. I have more time and quiet, but that doesn’t mean resting before God is any easier. It still takes a decision to slow down and enjoy His presence, read His word and reflect on it. I sure notice a difference when I do!

Taking time with God and allowing Him to fill your cup to the top is important for all you will face today. I think of the many times I am like a child who is asking for a glass of water while in the middle of a game where there is little time for that cup to actually be filled to the top. Impatient and hurried, they pull it away and are satisfied with a half-filled cup. I pray that today we will both sit at His feet and gaze at the beauty that is our Heavenly Father. May He fill our cup to the full! 

Dear Father,

We live in busy and distracting times. I ask that You would forgive me for my rushing in and out of Your presence. I also want to thank You for Your tender mercy. You see my life and see what I am up against. I ask that You help me even in the few minutes I have some days, to rest at Your feet and gaze at the beauty of Who You are! 

In Jesus Name,

Amen

Trouble Wears Running Shoes

23 Then Jesus got into the boat and started across the lake with his disciples. 24 Suddenly, a fierce storm struck the lake, with waves breaking into the boat. But Jesus was sleeping. 25 The disciples went and woke him up, shouting, “Lord, save us! We’re going to drown!”26 Jesus responded, “Why are you afraid? You have so little faith!” Then he got up and rebuked the wind and waves, and suddenly there was a great calm. Matthew 8:23-26

 You might think that because Jesus was in the boat, this trouble, this storm, would not have the nerve to come anywhere near it. I think that, possibly, is what the disciples believed. It was one thing when the storm kicked up, and quite another when the waves were coming over the sides of the boat. The real shocker in this story to me, is Jesus was fast asleep in the back of the boat. 

How many of us, at this moment, are in a storm where it feels like Jesus is asleep in the back of the boat?  You know He is with you, but frankly from where you stand, His presence is not evident. Our natural response is fear, just like the disciples. I would have thought Jesus would be more understanding when His disciples were so afraid! When they woke Him up to let Him know that capsizing was highly likely, surely He would show compassion on them for the obvious crisis they were in.  Instead, Jesus called them out for the fear that had gripped their hearts. He does not question the seriousness of the storm, but rebukes it as He would an evil spirit.  The storm is not friendly; it’s not the kind that He walks through.  The storm is unquestionably an enemy.  Be that as it may, they know enough about Jesus evidently to be able to rise above the fear but they don’t.  All they see is a storm and it paralyzes them.  Jesus has an expectation of us that, given what we know of Him, we will still ourselves in a raging storm and truly trust Him.

I also read Isaiah 43:1-3, and it is very comforting. We will experience overwhelming times; waters, rivers, fire but none of them will sweep us away. The Father has us in His sight. While it may seem that He is not in control, He is. He steps in. He watches over each one of His children.  I have experienced that as I have given thanks for His presence in storms often fraught with confusion.  I have found peace through gratitude, remembering all of His enduring promises that remain true. 

Dear Father,

Thank You for Your presence in the storms I face at this moment. Thank you that your love runs deeper than every storm.  Fill me with Your peace that surpasses understanding. Bring calm to my mind and to this storm. Thank You for being trustworthy in the midst of what I am facing today.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

Truly Trusting God

Imagine with me, a warm, sunny day, at a lake. There is a gentle breeze and, by the lake, a hammock. You have a great book in your hand and time to read! So, you head for the hammock. Here is the thing. If you don’t trust the hammock will hold you, you will have a hard time relaxing enough to enjoy yourself and read your book!

Recently, I have felt the Lord saying to me, “Believe Me”. Isaiah 26:3 says, “You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you!”  Let’s be honest here, it is a lot easier to live out this verse when life is good and another matter when it gets messy and feels like Jesus is fast asleep in the back of the boat. (Mark 4:38) The disciples were tired and there was no hammock in sight, only waves crashing over the side of the boat and fierce wind.

Believing God, keeping our eyes locked on Him in uncertain times, is the only way forward as far as I am concerned. Giving thanks to God in the face of uncertainty and truly believing that He will work it out is our best option. I love the verse from 2 Timothy 1:12.  From prison, Paul writes in response to the suffering he is enduring, “But I am not ashamed of it, for I know the one in whom I trust and am sure that he is able to guard what I have entrusted to him until the day of his return.”

God is trustworthy every moment of every day regardless of the trials we face. He is not called the Good Shepherd for nothing! He does not abandon His sheep and invites us to come and trust Him with that very thing that is tearing away at your heart or mind. He loves you and He is more than able!  I hope next time you settle into a hammock, you remember, this is like trusting Jesus!

Dear Father,

Thank You for being a good Father, who I trust with my life and all that is dear to me. Take all the loose ends, that which is unresolved, those things that keep me awake at night. I choose to trust You and truly rest in You. Thank You. I give it all over to You. I Know that You will work it out.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

The Ultimate Check List!

I am a list person! I get more done with a list. My 7-year-old granddaughter also likes lists. The apple does not fall far from the tree. There is just something satisfying putting that line across an item done!

When I was taking some quiet time with God the other day, I read the verse from Philippians 4:8. “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think about such things”

What a fabulous thinking check list! Are my thoughts:

-  True

-  Noble,

-   Right

-    Pure

-   Lovely

-   Admirable

-   Excellent

-   Praiseworthy

What a great list to think about as we have conversations. I had been sitting with a friend the other day and, I confess, had lost sight of my list, ending up having to apologize for something I said. How we think drives how we speak.

Our thoughts also indicate whether we will be hopeful or despairing, whether our lives will be fruitful or barren, whether we will be controlled by the flesh or the Spirit, whether or not we are being renewed by God, whether or not we will be alert and ready for what comes in an evil day.

So much is said by the state of our thoughts.  I wish I would get it right all the time, but I am moving in the right direction.  Having my thinking list clearly marked helps me.

This week, I had some challenges I had to face. I felt hurt and sad.  Having the list does not exempt us from those feelings but it helps us keep moving toward the right goal.  It focuses us 

Dear Father,

Thank you for this thinking list. Forgive me when I fall short. I ask that Your Spirit would tap me on the shoulder when I am not thinking as I ought. Give me courage to be honest with myself and careful to guard my mind as to the thoughts I allow to dwell there. Thank You for your mercy to me. Help me be merciful to others not only in my actions, but my thoughts.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

Food, Comfort and God.

I have lost the same 20 or so pounds maybe 3 or 4 times now. I have worked so hard to get rid of them and then without effort, every last pound finds me. Perhaps you have had a similar experience. 

I really debated hard about losing the weight again so I would look half decent at my son’s wedding this summer. There are a few things I have come to realize though. One is: none of my kids love me any better if I wear size 8. Secondly, I do not want to be counting points. What I really would like to address is why I reach for cookies and sometimes chips to bring me comfort when I feel lonely or bored or I don’t even know what. 

I am on day 4 of a book called “The 40 Day Sugar Fast” by Wendy Speak, and I also bought a book called “Full, Food, Jesus and the Battle for Satisfaction” by Asheritah Ciuciu.  

I have tried the Sugar Fast before and failed miserably, and I am only about half way through the book called Full. Here is what I am doing this time that is different… This time I decided to actually ask the hard questions like, “where do I honestly find comfort?” Personally, I do not love the question. I know that I have run to cookies or chips many times over the years. While losing a few pounds would be great, what would be even greater would be to run to God for comfort and not the comfort that food offers which only lasts a little while. 

I have changed my focus this time and am looking to God to be exactly what the Bible says He is: my comfort. I have looked to God for all kinds of help and comfort over the years but often with a cookie in my hand. I took quite a while this morning and talked over this entire topic with Jesus. I am on day 4 of no sugar. So far, so good. I will do this one day at a time as frankly thinking of 40 days of “no thank you” seems a bit overwhelming. 

1 Corinthians 1:3 “All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is our merciful Father and the source of ALL comfort.”

Does this mean I will never eat sugar again? NO! I just want to get to the place where I can eat a piece of cake because there is something to celebrate and not because it is filling a need that really only God can fill. 

I asked God what He had to say to me about all this and here is what I heard “ I want to be the One you run to for comfort and satisfaction, allow food to nourish you, not the other things”.

I liked His advice.He has everything needed.

Let me know if you want to join me in this quest. I am sure there are others who have found themselves on a similar journey.

Dear Father,

Forgive me Father for looking to food to be my comfort in whatever I am facing instead of you. I come to you and ask for your help in this. My I look to you Father, one day at a time. Thank you for loving me no matter what. 

In Jesus Name, 

Amen

Praying for The Loved One Who Is Stuck- Part Two

Have you ever gotten your car super stuck in snow? If you live in Canada, you likely have. One thing is certain: if you get super stuck, you cannot maneuver that car expertly out of that snow pile by yourself.  You need help from determined people! They have to lean in and work together to get your car unstuck. I think this is a good image of what it is like to pray for a loved one who is stuck. Last week I wrote about this and I would like to continue this week.

Mark 2:1-12 has the perfect story for us and is complete with some principles we can apply in this situation. 

In our passage, Jesus is back in Capernaum and is once again in somebody’s house, teaching them about the Word of God. There is quite a crowd gathered there and the religious leaders managed to get front row seats. There were lots of people inside and out. 

News of this reached four men who had a loved one in need.  We don’t know if he was a friend or a family member–all we know for sure is the guy was paralyzed. These four men are a very determined group, a bit like the friends who helped you get your very stuck car out of the snow. 

These guys did not allow the crowds to get in the way of them bringing this loved one to Jesus for healing. You would think the crowd would catch on and make a way for the man on a bed, but no. These friends had to be creative, climbing to the roof, which they dug through, lowering this man on his bed before Jesus. It had to be a very co-ordinated effort to not spill the guy out of his bed!

Jesus stops what He is teaching about and recognizes the faith of these four men on the roof and says, “My child, your sins are forgiven.” Mark 2:5. The religious leaders did not like what they heard and nor did they understand.  Likely the man in the bed didn’t understand either as he did not move! Jesus knew exactly what these guys were thinking and called them out for it. Jesus asks them, “Is it easier to say to this paralyzed man “Your sins are forgiven,” or “Stand up, pick up your mat and walk.” Mark 2:9?

As you continue to read, Jesus tells the fellow to pick up his bed and walk and he does. 

Here are a few things we can learn about praying for a loved one who is stuck.

1. We may be praying for something specific, but sometimes what Jesus wants to do is different than what we envision.

2. Don’t give up and don’t allow obstacles/people to hinder you. Press into prayer for the loved one like that car stuck in the snow. It is not like praying for the food sitting in front of you.

3. Invite others with faith to join you in praying. They will not be hindered by fear or weariness over your loved one. They can pray much more easily in faith. 

4. Be encouraged, the paralyzed guy in the bed had no say in the matter and Jesus forgave his sins and healed him! 

Dear Father, 

Thank you for the story of the paralyzed man. I pray today for my loved one who is very much like him. I lay them before your throne today. Do in their life what You see is needed. I entrust them into Your hands. 

In Jesus Name,

Amen